We enter into 2019 with grateful hearts for all that took place in 2018! It was a year full of growth in process-based ministries and Marriage Care development. We are thankful for the many friendships we share with you, our friends, and we praise God for you! Last year also included the passing of one of our founders, my father Lew Shaffer. We have thought of him a lot since his passing in July, and we miss him greatly. My dad's current reality, though, is a great way to direct our thoughts as we begin a new year. My dad and all Christians who have passed on are in the presence of the Lord! That is truly awesome! And the Good News is that Jesus died for all mankind, that those who receive him may be called children of God. This allows us to join with the psalmist and declare, "This is the day that the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it" (Psalm 118:24, ESV).
Graced-Based Family Matrix
Grace-based families are homes where children are given:
1. The freedom to be different
2. The freedom to be vulnerable
3. The freedom to be candid
4. The freedom to make mistakes
There's nothing magical about this matrix since it's simply the sum of how God deals with us through His grace. He made us with a gnawing need for security, for significance, and for strength. He helps us meet our need for security by finding a secure love in Him. He helps us meet our need for significance by finding a significant purpose in Him. He helps us meet our need for strength by finding a strong hope in Him. The way we sense His grace each day is through the grace He grants us to be different, by the grace He extends to us when we are vulnerable, by the grace He allows us when we are candid with HIm, and by the grace He pours over us when we make mistakes.
Tim Kimmel, Grace Based Parenting: Set Your Family Free (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2004), 134-35.