Son Shine Ministries is excited to transition to a new donation platform. This brings a new level of professionalism for our donors, providing continued security. You may already be familiar with Pushpay through another non-profit you support, so any gifts to Son Shine Ministries will now be on your current Pushpay account. This also allows for a new, easy way to give.
Here are the two most convenient options:
Click on the "GIVE NOW" link at the top of this page.
Text SONSHINEGIVE to 77977 – You will receive a text back with a link to give a donation. If this is your first time with Pushpay, you will be walked through a simple and quick process to set up a giving account.
We think you'll love this new way to give to Son Shine Ministries. We are deeply grateful to and strengthened by the individuals, families, and churches who partner with us. Thank you, and may God bless you!
Truly Being Heard
Researcher John Gottman has identified conflict avoidance as the #1 predictor of a failed marriage. As Son Shine Ministries actively trains on communication and conflict resolution, one of the most important skills needed is active listening. When done well, it communicates respect and makes your spouse truly know he/she is heard.
Active listening begins when your spouse shares with you something of importance, including the emotion connected with it. After listening intently, you then paraphrase back to your spouse what you heard, identifying the emotion that accompanied it. This is not the time to express an opinion. The key to this stage is to make sure your spouse is truly heard. The next step is that the original "sender" evaluates the paraphrased response, fine-tuning it to make sure he/she is truly understood. In conflict resolution, it is important for both spouses to take turns doing this before possible solutions are discussed. Besides escalating initial reactions, it is in the active listening step of paraphrasing where we often see couples go off course. Active listening is a learned skill (i.e., it takes practice).
Jeff Daly's oft-quoted statement, "Two monologues do not make a dialogue," is true, but two monologues (with active listening) often begin a dialogue. Communication is vital in relationships. Is this a strength in your marriage? What small thing could you do today to improve it?